I'm pissed off today, but it's all my fault.
A girl I work with can't close certain nights because her husband works double shifts and they have no one to take care of the kids, so could I close for her next Thursday??? Of course she asks me this as I have my hands full of baskets for a customer who is keeping me at work an HOUR longer than I should be there. I curse my parents for raising me to be too nice. I have no idea how to say "no". As in "No, I can't work for you next Thursday night because I have been closing nearly every night for the past two months and I want to spend time with my honey and mutts." As in "I'm sorry I can't help you with your GINORMOUS request for baskets as it's time for me to leave and I have plans, but let me just call someone who can work with you..."
WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH ME???
At least the lady spent $1600, and my co-worker owes me a favour. And I'll get to leave an hour early tomorrow. Well, I should say that I've been *approved* to leave an hour early tomorrow. We'll see if it actually happens.
*sigh.* just too damn nice.
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Sometimes it's a blessing and sometimes it's a curse...being too nice. It's something I deal with as well. Although tonight I made a step in the right direction.
I'd locked up, closed out and called the boss with the totals. As I was leaving these two people were at my door. The girl was pissy and rude and asked "what if I'm ready to buy those red clogs NOW?" I just tell her sorry...it felt good!
Sometimes, as we learn to serve, we realize we need to also serve ourselves. Having taught assertiveness training, I know it can be difficult to say no. However, it can be done in a caring way.
To serve others also requires the idea of caring for them as well. As you discover the love in your heart, that will help you in your sharing.
I tell my real estate students that a secret to success is serving, caring, and sharing the love in your heart.
It probably takes a lifetime to get anywhere close to "perfection". Hell, it probably takes a lot of lifetimes.
I know you will find a way to say no gently, but firmly. That is one of your primary challenges at this time in your life. After all, you don't let your "mutts" get away with anything, do you?
Hon,
I have no idea what you are talking about. You say "NO!" to me all the time!
"Honey, can I buy a new european sports car?"
"NO!"
Honey, can I get a new super-douper computer?"
"NO!"
"Honey, can..."
"NO!"
:p
-R-
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